Sometimes I feel like everything would be better if I wasn’t single, especially when another friend announces their engagement or their 2nd or 3rd pregnancy, I just feel further and further behind! But God quickly reminds me that there are definitely positives to being a single lady. These are some of my favourites…
Being single means it’s easier to:
- Watch whatever I want on tv
- Watch Netflix all day if I feel like it (I think there’s a tv theme here…!)
- Catch up with a friend at a moments notice
- Eat whatever I choose for lunch/dinner
- Save on grocery bills, cause I’m only shopping for one
- Go to bed at whatever time I like
- Have completely uninterrupted sleep every night
- Spend/save my money how ever I choose
- Spend time with God
- Go on a trip whenever I’m on work holidays
- Do only one load of washing a week
- Spend my time with whoever I choose
- Never iron clothes because I only buy crinkle free tops
- Help someone else at a moments notice
Although these things are great, there is also the flip side…like I eat whatever I want for dinner because there’s no one else to help decide, I have completely uninterrupted sleep every night because there’s no one there to have late night chats with, and although I can go on a holiday anywhere at anytime…I have no one to go with.
So it’s a choice to focus on the positive versions rather than the negative. I’d like to think that at least 8 times out of 10 I enjoy the freedom of singleness and when a married friend says ‘it’s nice that you don’t have to be home by a certain time for anyone’, I let myself agree.
I came home from work last night after a very busy day. I spent the whole evening on the couch watching tv. It was wonderful! I’m not saying that people in relationships and/or parents don’t do this, but I really had a moment of realisation where I thought “I actually really appreciate that I can have this complete down time to rest from work.”
Obviously, I am super keen to one day meet someone special, and to swap the above list of pleasures for a completely new list of pleasures and experiences.
There are so many things I am grateful for, and I think it’s important to choose to spend my time celebrating and enjoying the stage I am in, rather than regretting what I don’t have.
What are some of the things you appreciate about being single? (either in your current single stage or from when you were single.)