I’m Getting Married!…But Do I Feel Guilty?!

So…I know I haven’t updated for awhile, and I think it’s because I have big news to share…that I feel a bit guilty about sharing…I’m engaged!! We’re getting married in 6 months, and it’s been such a wonderful experience. But underneath the joy and excitement, a little bit of me feels guilty for leaving the ‘single sisterhood’. I think I keep projecting all of the things I felt when my other friends got engaged…and basically I’m finding it difficult to not feel like I have let down my single friends, because I have gotten engaged. Single people band together and encourage each other and support each other – and I hope that I can continue to do that will all of my friends when I’m married, but experience tells me that when I’m married, I won’t be able to do it in the same way that I once did when I was single.

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Four Things I Wish I Could Go Back And Tell Myself When I Was Single

When I first started this blog back in 2015, I never, never, ever imagined that I would one day be in a relationship. I refused to even let myself actually believe that it could be possible, because it was too upsetting when year after year I remained single. In no way am I saying that being in a relationship is better than being single, not at all…rather, both of these life circumstances are just very different to each other, and I couldn’t visualise myself in the other option.

I’ve been thinking about how so many of my preconceived ideas of relationships have been completely smashed apart in the last few months…so these are four things that I didn’t think were true when I was single…but that I wish I could’ve told myself:

His Side of Our Story – I Met a Girl (Guest Post)

 

I’ve met a girl – and I think she is quite nice. I guess I wasn’t really expecting it, for whatever reason I haven’t really ever got to know a Christian girl that is mature and lovely and Godly and, well, pleasant. But I went to a new church this morning and bang, there she was.

God’s Timing is Better Than We Can Ever Imagine

If I had a dollar for every time I said “I’m definitely going to be single forever” I’d be a pretty rich person.

But through a phenomenally crazy series of events, I’m not single anymore.

Emotional Vulnerability – What’s Appropriate in the ‘Hanging Out’ Stage?!

So things have been going well with ‘Mr Potential’…I’ve been to his place for dinner a few times, and he’s had dinner at mine. We’re still messaging regularly, and we were both at a camping trip with a group of friends. But…there still hasn’t been a conversation about what’s going on between us, and I don’t know what his intentions are. I’m assuming from his actions that he’s at least a bit interested and is spending time getting to know me before making a decision either way…but I can’t be sure (it sure would be handy to be a mind reader haha!!). 

What Happens When You Change From ‘Single’ to ‘Not Single’??

I’ve been thinking a lot lately…about what happens when after an incredibly long time, your life situation changes?

For example: you’ve always, ALWAYS, been the single person, but then through nothing but sheer luck of the draw your status changes and you are no longer single. But your closest confidants are single, your life routines are based on being single, you fight hard for single people to be heard and valued, and you had your future planned out for being single.

Mother’s Day for the Single and Childless Woman

In Australia we just celebrated Mother’s Day…and I find it to be a strange day. On one hand, I am excited to celebrate my own mother, and my friends who are incredible mothers, but then I am also weighed down by the thought ‘I should have been a mother by now…”

How Do You Back Yourself After So Much Rejection?

So you’ve entered into the ‘fuzzy friendship’ stage with someone, where you feel something more, but you aren’t sure if all the extra hanging out is leading to ‘more than friends’… how do you actually sit comfortably in that unknown without shutting down your feelings?

Some Days Are Just Hard

So this evening I went to a dinner with 3 families. Food and company was great, but they all had kids and partners, and I was the only one there who is alone.

Top that off with 6 friends giving birth to gorgeous babies in the last 3 weeks…and it’s been an emotionally tough day.

Trusting God in the Unknown

I’m the type of person that likes answers and things to be sorted quickly.

If I’ve made a mistake, I need it to be rectified yesterday! If there’s a problem at work, or something isn’t as efficient as it should be, I will work on a solution non-stop until the problem is solved.

Hence why I think a lot of my blog posts have been about how I trust God with the unknown of how long my singleness might last.