When I first started this blog back in 2015, I never, never, ever imagined that I would one day be in a relationship. I refused to even let myself actually believe that it could be possible, because it was too upsetting when year after year I remained single. In no way am I saying that being in a relationship is better than being single, not at all…rather, both of these life circumstances are just very different to each other, and I couldn’t visualise myself in the other option.
I’ve been thinking about how so many of my preconceived ideas of relationships have been completely smashed apart in the last few months…so these are four things that I didn’t think were true when I was single…but that I wish I could’ve told myself: Continue reading
I’ve met a girl – and I think she is quite nice. I guess I wasn’t really expecting it, for whatever reason I haven’t really ever got to know a Christian girl that is mature and lovely and Godly and, well, pleasant. But I went to a new church this morning and bang, there she was. Continue reading
If I had a dollar for every time I said “I’m definitely going to be single forever” I’d be a pretty rich person.
But through a phenomenally crazy series of events, I’m not single anymore. Continue reading
As soon as I find myself noticing a guy, my first thought is ‘ok, what can I do to spend more time with him?’ (which translates to: how can I accidentally bump into him or create some situation that forces him to hang out with me)??? Continue reading
Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re too picky!!! This is one of the most common ‘solutions’ people provide for my long time singleness. Heard any of these little gems before…? Continue reading
As a teacher, I am very fortunate to have 6 weeks of holidays over the Christmas period and Australian summer. People very regularly say ‘Oh, teachers are so lucky to have all these holidays’, and more often than not they actually mean ‘I can’t believe you have so many holidays, it’s not fair.’ (side note, my usual response is just a smile or a comment about how they should become a teacher then!)… BUT, what I actually think about holidays are ‘my goodness…how on earth am I going to occupy my time so that I don’t feel excruciatingly lonely?’ Continue reading
I often joke with my friends that almost every guy I am interested in becomes engaged to someone else within 6 months. TRUTH!
I once even thought to myself ‘he has nice arms’ about an acquaintance…and BAM, next week he announced his engagement. I wanted to look around and hi 5 someone because of my awesome powers. Continue reading
Why am I single? Am I doing something wrong?
Am I being too funny, or not funny enough?
Am I too nice, or not nice enough?
Am I too intelligent, or not intelligent enough?
Am I too confident, or not confident enough?
Or am I giving out some sort of ‘desperate’ vibe?
All these questions and many more come to mind when I try to work out why I’m single. Why haven’t I ever been asked out on a date?…am I rude to men? do I put up some sort of emotional wall? does anyone even find me attractive? or do I walk around with a flashing neon sign above my head that reads hurry up and date me before I get wrinkles?!! Continue reading
Sometimes I feel like everything would be better if I wasn’t single, especially when another friend announces their engagement or their 2nd or 3rd pregnancy, I just feel further and further behind! But God quickly reminds me that there are definitely positives to being a single lady. These are some of my favourites… Continue reading
This is a hard one to write about. I feel like because I’m single, I don’t have the right to grieve the fact that I don’t have children… That stage seems to be reserved for infertile couples who have to continually put a brave face on when people cheekily ask ‘so when are you going to have kids?!’ Continue reading